First of all, thank you for taking the time out of your day to see what this girl is all about. So who am I?
My father named me Kitoko, which in Linguala (one of the many congolese languages) means “beautiful”, “pretty”, “pleasing to the eye”. The back story was my parents were hoping they would finally have a boy after having three girls in a row. Needless to say that they were a little bit disappointed to have a fourth daughter. But I was so adorable (my newborn charm working already) that they were instantly smitten with me and decided to take me home anyway.
Now at 33 years young, 5’5″ tall and 130 lbs, I am a woman who is taking charge of her life. I will always remember the words of my mother: “If someone was able to do it before you and succeed, there is no reason why you can’t.” Granted, this sounds a little too easy and optimistic of a statement to be realistic. I mean just because someone else succeeded at that thing called life doesn’t mean that I will do just as great. But as I reflected upon the ups and downs I’ve had to face in my life, I realized that I have developed a certain resilience. My mother’s words have made me the strong woman that I am today. And even though I hated to admit it at the time, she was right.
She was so right that her words fueled my desire to get a better life for myself. I went from being a young adult with an uncertain future in my home country, to being a Dental Hygienist in the US and now starting my own online business. This might not sound like much to some people, but when you add growing up through not one but three civil wars in the mix, this feels like an amazing step forward (as it should be).
My mother’s words also gave me the freedom to be responsible for my own life and the people I surround myself with. They have given me the strength to walk away from relationships where my happiness was at stake, and the courage to get back on my feet and get shit done even after I felt like I’ve hit the ground and could never get back up.
This blog is an opportunity to share the ups and downs of trying to be a #bosslady. I will talk about what it takes to be my own boss, and my love for home decoration, which is what my online business is all about; and female empowerment because the world needs a little bit more of that. I hope you can find something here for yourself that will make you tag along for the long term.
… And yes, my parents got their wish granted. Five years after they had been blessed with the most perfect baby girl, AKA me, they finally had a baby boy.